Arranged marriage (in Japan)

AEON(英会話教室)の英作文課題で書いた”Arranged Marriage”(お見合い結婚)についてのエッセイは以下です。(教師の指摘による文法ミス10箇所修正済み)

Topic: Arranged marriage
Style: Formal

Arranged marriage may sound feudalistic, strange, and old-fashioned to most Westerners. In Japan, however, arranged marriage has been playing a significant role in pairing a man and a woman until quite recently. As you can see in Graph 1 (below), the portion of arranged marriage was around 70% before the end of World War II, and it had been more than 50% until 1960.
In traditional Japanese society, a marriage was to establish a close relation more between two families than just between a man and a woman. There was no concept of free men and women, and everybody was considered to belong to a family. One of the biggest purposes for traditional Japanese was to let their family continue forever. (You can see the most typical case in the Japanese Emperor family, which is alleged to have continued for more than 2600 years).
The most typical arranged marriage is called Omiai, meaning literally to meet a counterpart for the first time arranged by some relatives or acquaintances. (You can watch examples in some movies of Yasujirō Ozu such as Bakushu (1951), Banshun (1949), or Sanma no aji (1962)). Please note that they were not always “forced marriage”, but the partners to be kept rights whether to accept or decline the proposed marriage. (For the sake of fairness, there were many so called “political marriages” as well and the partners to be did not have any option but to accept the marriage in these cases). Interestingly, most love-marriages were condemned as Yagō, meaning wild pairing, or more literally “intercourses in the field”.
For most systems in our society, there are almost always pros and cons. Let me play devil’s advocate in describing the pros of arranged marriage in Japan:
(1) People trying to arrange a marriage are considered to take full responsibility for the result of the marriage. It means they were very careful in selecting a possible pair. As a result, they chose well-balanced couples in most cases.
(2) Since this system assumes a close relation of two families from the start, there are few troubles after the marriage compared to love-marriage.
(3) Based on the above (1) and (2), divorce rate is much lower than that of love marriage. (As you can see Graph 2, the divorce rate in 2016 is more than 30% while the portion of love-marriage reaches almost 90%).
(4) Young men and women at certain ages are forced to marry someone in this system. This kept the average marriage age at almost the same level. (Delayed marriage is quite a big problem in Japan now, because it lowers the birth rate and accordingly the total population in Japan has started to decline).
As a conclusion, arranged marriage can be said to be an example of “hidden wisdom” in a traditional system.

Graph 1: Changes of Japanese marital style from 1930 through 2014

Graph 2: Changes of Japanese demographics (birth, death, marriage and divorce)



小津安二郎の「晩春」を観ました。AEON(週1回通っている英会話教室)の英作文課題の”Arranged marriage”(要するにお見合い結婚のこと)の中で、日本のお見合い結婚というものを理解したかったら、小津の映画のいくつかを観ろ、と書いて、実際には私は個人的には小津映画で扱っているテーマって苦手なんで「東京物語」と「秋刀魚の味」ぐらいしか観ていないのですが、勧めといて実際に観ないのも無責任と思って観ました。で、中味はお見合いそのもののずばりのシーンは省略されていますが、典型的な日本のお見合いの進行という感じで選択は間違っていなかったと思います。特にお節介なおばさんがあれこれ動く、というのがそれらしくていいです。ちょっとショックだったのは、笠智衆の演じる父親の年が何と56歳!(今の私より若い。)29歳の時に生まれた娘だとしたらまったく不思議はないんですが、「お父さんはもう長くないんだ」みたいなことを言われるとちょっと愕然とします。